As therapists working closely with families, we’ve seen the benefits and the risks that come with social media use among children and teens. While platforms offer spaces for creativity, connection, and learning, they also expose children to potential dangers such as cyberbullying, inappropriate content, and online predators. Navigating these challenges can feel overwhelming for parents, but there are practical steps you can take to ensure your child is safe online.
Here are some therapist-informed strategies to help you guide your child’s social media use responsibly:
1. Open the Lines of Communication
The foundation of keeping your child safe online is open and honest communication. Encourage your child to share their online experiences, both good and bad, with you. Ensure they know they can come to you without fear of punishment if they encounter something upsetting. What does this mean for you, Mom or Dad? You must try your best to refrain from judgment and try your best to be objective, avoiding the lecture. This builds trust and ensures you’re the first person they turn to when faced with online challenges.
Tip: Ask your child questions like, “What apps do you use the most?” or “Have you ever seen anything online that made you uncomfortable?” This shows interest without judgment and encourages dialogue.
2. Set Clear Boundaries and Guidelines
Establish age-appropriate social media use rules that'd fit within your family’s values. Consider setting limits on screen time, the kinds of platforms your child can use, and who they can connect with. Social media should complement your child’s life, not dominate it.
Tip: Create a written agreement outlining expectations, such as how much time they can spend on social media and rules about sharing personal information. This creates a CLEAR and mutual understanding of acceptable behavior online.
3. Monitor Their Activity—But Balance Trust
Monitoring your child’s online activity is crucial, but it’s important to do so in a way that doesn’t erode trust. You don’t need to read every message, but you should be aware of their general activity, the platforms they use, and who they interact with. Parental control apps are useful to set limits and to scan for inappropriate content, sexting, and cyberbullying, but these tools should complement, not replace ongoing conversations.
Tip: Instead of “spying,” frame monitoring or checking in as a way to support their online experience. Explain that it’s about ensuring safety, not invading privacy. I suggest encouraging your child/teen to “review together” making it a more collaborative activity versus them feeling “You don’t trust me”.
4. Teach Digital Literacy and Critical Thinking
Children need to understand that not everything they see online is real or safe. Equip them with tools to navigate misinformation, recognize potential online predators, and understand the emotional impact of social media, such as comparison or negative body image.
Tip: Teach them to be cautious about sharing personal information, even with people they think they know. Encourage them to ask, “Would I say or do this in real life?” before posting anything.
5. Encourage Healthy Online Relationships
Social media is a space for building relationships, but not all interactions are positive. Help your child recognize the difference between healthy and toxic online behaviors, such as cyberbullying, sexting, or peer pressure. Empower them to disengage from harmful interactions and seek support when needed.
Tip: Role-play scenarios with your child about how to handle uncomfortable situations online, such as receiving inappropriate messages or being pressured to participate in challenges they’re not comfortable with.
6. Be a Role Model
Children often mimic the behavior they observe in their parents. If they see you constantly on your phone, oversharing personal details, or engaging in unhealthy social media habits, they’re more likely to follow suit. Model the behavior you want to see in them by demonstrating balance, mindfulness, and discretion in your online activities.
Tip: Discuss your own experiences with social media, both the positives and the negatives, and share how you handle online challenges. If they don’t hear from you, they will hear from someone else!
7. Know the Platforms and Stay Updated
The social media landscape is constantly evolving, with new platforms and trends emerging frequently. Stay informed about the apps your child uses and any potential risks associated with them. Many social media platforms have specific safety features, so take the time to explore parental controls, privacy settings, and reporting tools.
Tip: Make it a habit to check the latest updates on platforms like Instagram, TikTok, or Snapchat, and engage in discussions with your child about how to use these features for their safety.
8. Foster a Strong Sense of Self-Esteem
A child with strong self-esteem is less likely to fall victim to the negative influences of social media, such as comparing themselves to others or seeking validation through likes and followers. Encourage offline activities that build their confidence, such as sports, hobbies, or family time, to ensure they have a well-rounded sense of identity.
Tip: Praise your child for who they are, not for their social media presence. Reinforce the idea that their worth isn’t tied to their online popularity. On the same token, praise and be curious about their creativity and self-expression, whether it be the latest Reel they made or the Tik-Tok dance they just learned.
Give yourself some Grace.
As parents, it’s impossible to completely shield your child from the risks of social media, but by staying involved, maintaining open communication, and teaching responsible online behavior, you can significantly reduce the dangers. The goal isn’t to create fear around social media but to empower your child to use it in a way that’s safe, healthy, and aligned with your family’s values.
Remember, social media is a part of your child’s world, and the more equipped they are to handle it, the more positive their online experience will be.
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